14 Compelling Reasons for Relationship Coaching

The coaching relationship is unique and powerful, and really can help you find fulfillment in
your life and relationships. Below are some important reasons to develop Meaningful Relationship Skills in your life, any ONE of which is compelling enough to get your very own relationship expert TODAY.

1. YOU VALUE RELATIONSHIPS HIGHLY
You prioritize building fulfilling personal and professional relationships. You realize that
your success and quality of life is directly connected to the quality of your relationships.

2. YOU ARE COMMITTED TO SUCCESS
You are serious and intentional about having a fulfilling life partnership, family, business,
and community.

3. YOU WANT RESULTS
Working with a coach can move you farther and faster than you can move on your own.

4. YOU ARE WILLING TO LEARN
You realize that you don’t know what you don’t know, and your future success may depend
upon access to new relationship skills and knowledge.

5. YOU ARE READY FOR ACTION
Using a coach can be the most effective means of translating knowledge into practice. One of the most indispensable roles of a coach is to help you use what you already know to make effective choices and take the actions necessary to be successful.

6. YOU ARE OPEN TO MENTORING/SUPPORT
A Relationship Coach helps you to use your relationships to evolve and develop relationship
skills critical to your business success and personal fulfillment. The process of self discovery,
learning about relationships, and how to make successful relationship choices
cannot be effectively self-taught or obtained from a book or tape.

7. YOU WANT FULFILLMENT
You do not want to settle for less or risk preventable failure, and you are willing to give
yourself the gift of the support and technology needed to be successful.

8. YOU WANT TO BE TRUE TO YOURSELF
A Relationship Coach helps keep you honest with yourself, helps neutralize any tendency
you may have to settle for less than you really want, is good for providing ‘reality checks’ and being a sounding board.

9. YOU WANT TO BE PROACTIVE
A Relationship Coach helps you solve problems while they are still small.

10. YOU WANT TO GO BEYOND YOUR CURRENT LIMITS
A Relationship Coach holds your highest vision for you beyond your fears and limitations,
and helps you overcome your obstacles and challenges.

11. YOU WANT TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
A Relationship Coach helps you take responsibility for the quality of your relationships so
that you can create them the way you want.

12. YOU WANT LIVE AUTHENTICALLY
Today’s world is filled with challenges to finding and staying on your highest path, telling
your truth, and making choices that are best for you. A Relationship Coach helps you identify and live the life you really want, and to be more of the person you really are and want to be.

13. YOU WANT BALANCE IN YOUR LIFE
Your life is filled with opportunities and conflicting choices. You recognize the importance
of creating and maintaining balance in relationships, including the ones you have with
yourself and your higher power.

14. YOU WANT NEW POSSIBILITIES FOR YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
You recognize that a healthy relationship is growing and dynamic. One of the worst things
that can happen is to take one another or the relationship for granted. Opening to new
possibilities keeps a good relationship getting better with the passage of time. A Relationship Coach helps you to continually discover and implement new and more fulfilling possibilities for your life and relationships.

The 14 Dating Traps

 By David Steele

1. Marketing Trap

Trying to attract a partner by making yourself more appealing, believing you have to sell yourself because nobody would want you as you really are.

2. Packaging Trap

The opposite of the Marketing Trap. Instead of seeking to sell yourself with attractive packaging, you focus on the packaging of others, such as age, body type, weight, income, etc.

3. Scarcity Trap

Believing there is a limited supply of possible partners so you have to take what you can get or be alone.

4. Compatibility Trap

Believing that if you’re having fun with someone and getting along well, then you’re compatible and a committed relationship will work.

5. Fairytale Trap

This is passively expecting your ideal partner to magically appear so that you can live happily ever after without effort on your part. Believing that finding your soul mate will just "happen."

6. Date-to-Mate Trap

Becoming an instant couple with everybody you date, as if you're giving the relationship a test drive. Assuming that by becoming a couple and trying out the relationship that a successful committed relationship will happen.

7. Attraction Trap

Making your choices based solely on feelings of attraction. You interpret a strong attraction to someone as a sign that this relationship is a good choice and is meant to be.

8. Love Trap

Interpreting infatuation, attraction, need, good sex, or emotional attachment as love.

9. Sex Trap

Prioritizing physical intimacy and regarding everything else as optional. Your main criterion for a relationship is sexual attraction and physical compatibility. You become a couple as soon as you have sex.

10. Rescue Trap

Hoping that a relationship will solve your emotional and financial problems and bring you happiness and fulfillment; like winning the lottery.

11. Co-dependent Trap

You expect someone will love you and give you what you want by giving the other person what they want. You try to earn love and happiness by acquiescing, nurturing, giving, and helping. Needing to be needed often results in unconsciously attracting and choosing a relationship with a person who needs you but is unable to give you what you want. You really want to be in a relationship. You feel unworthy as you are, and that you need to earn love. You pursue relationships because you feel incomplete when you're not in one.

12. Entitlement Trap

Believing you deserve to be happy and to get what you want in your life without effort or changes on your part, because you're entitled. Your attitude toward your partner is “What can you do for me?” “Make me feel good.” “Make me happy.”

13. Virtual Reality Trap

Believe that “what you see is what you get” and seeing what you want to see instead of using actual experience and knowledge to make long-term relationship choices.

14. Lone Ranger Trap

You are focused on your goal of finding your life partner and believe that the other relationships in your life are less important and that you don’t need anyone’s help. You evaluate the people you meet for their relationship potential and don’t take the opportunity to cultivate new friends. Then, you feel isolated and believe that there’s a scarcity of potential partner.